Feminine/Masculine Presenting – A way to describe someone without using specifically gendered language.Facial – The act of climaxing on a person’s face.FtM (F2M) – Female to Male, a description of a trans* person’s gender.Dominas - a Latin word which means 'Mistress'.Doggy style – A sexual position where one individual penetrates the another from behind.DDP – Double Digit Penetration, one finger in the vagina with one in the anus.Dirty talk – The use of creative language during intercourse.DATO – ‘Dining at the Orifice’ meaning performing oral sex on someone’s anus.DATY – ‘Dining at the Y’ meaning oral sex on a woman.Cougar – A mature woman typically seeking a younger man.Cisgender (Cis) – The description of a person who identifies with the sex they were assigned at birth.Brazilian – Waxing of the public area to remove all hair.Bondage – Restraining or tying up one partner.BDSM – Body Domination and Sadomasochism.BBBJTC - Bare Back Blow Job To Completion.BBBJ – Bare Back Blow Job, blow job without protection.Anal play – Any sexual play with the anus including toys or anal sex.These people are often described as anti-sex, prohibitionist feminists and/or anti-sex workers' rights feminists, and are focused on the abolition of sex work rather than the promotion of human and labour rights of sex workers. Abolitionist - Often a 'feminist' who believes that prostitution is inherently exploitative, violent and akin to slavery.If you hear them used by non sex workers, please call them out for using derogatory language. We encourage clients to learn and understand these as their use adds to the stigma and violence we face. We have also added a section at the bottom of this page which includes some terms which are now considered outdated and slurs which should not be used unless you are a sex worker. To help clients navigate this easier, we have made this comprehensive glossary of terms to hopefully ensure clients and workers are able to clearly understand one another.

It is imperative to us that clients have a complete understanding of the services that workers are providing. Many people do not have as thorough understanding of these terms as those of us in the industry, but we endeavour to make communication between client and worker as easy as possible. Therefore is it vital that the terms that queer people, as well as sex workers use to describe themselves and their services are understandable. We also recognise that as we exist in a queer space, as a much higher percentage of workers are queer than the general public. Being sex worker run, we know that communication is an extremely important part of any intimate meeting. To keep themselves safe, workers created slang language of their own to communicate with one another and their clientele. Slang and abbreviations have been used by the sex industry for as long as there has been a sex industry.

Dato meaning sex